When we encourage our children, we must be honest.
Often when we give our children words of encouragement, we generalize. We will say, “Good job!” Or “Way to go!” Sometimes we may even fake it, “Oh, you did that really well.” (When they really didn’t.)
Romans 12: 9 gives parents the best advice for speaking words that make a difference. It says, “Love must be sincere.”
Being sincere and specific are the best ways to impact our kids.
“All the colors you used in your drawing really makes the scenery pop. Beautiful.”
Here are four more tips to effectively impact and motivate your children over the course of their lives.
H : Be humble and honest in your approach. Admit you are not perfect. No one can do everything well. You may even want to ask, “What do you think needs improvement?”
E : Show empathy while being effective. Listen to your child when he is expressing frustration with a particular task. Then offer up guidance and show your child how to navigate the experience. “How can I help you?” or “Here is a way in which you can do this.”
A: Express your affection by speaking words of affirmation. Let your child know you have confidence in his abilities, that he is capable. “I know you can manage this task, you possess the quality of determination.”
R: Relate to your child by spending recreational time together. Hang-out and have fun together. Give him the present of your presence.
As parents, we desire to positively influence our children. In order to do so we must be real not “stinky” while we are building them up.
And let’s remember to…. H.E.A.R.
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up…
1 Thessalonians 5:11a