Miscarriage – What Should I Say or Not Say?
At our second doctor’s appointment we learned that our little blessing was not growing, and were told that I would have a miscarriage. I refused to believe it. I prayed night and day for God to save my baby. We called our loved ones and friends to pray for a strong heartbeat. My husband and I went for long drives, parking at dead-ends and pleading with God to help our child grow. A week went by and our doctor told us there was no heartbeat. My world around me stopped. I disappeared into a fog for weeks.
A week after the news, I started bleeding and cramping. My heart broke with every cramp my body felt. This went on for a couple of days. I was devastated and angry at God, yet I held on to Him through it all, and He brought me comfort.
No one really knows what I felt, and I can’t assume that others who are grieving through a miscarriage are experiencing the same things I did. My friends sat with me, and my husband helped me to bed when I couldn’t get there on my own.
After our miscarriage we were going to wait for several months before trying again but I got pregnant soon after and my sweet little girl was born January 2010. Even so, I have never forgotten that lost little one. Every year on April 20th we celebrate our unborn child’s birthday with flowers and candles. This is the day that the Lord took our child home. My husband, James and I believe that we will see our little one there. I’m excited for that day and I’m disappointed that I have to wait.
Five Things One Should Never Say When A Friend Has A Miscarriage
I have a special place in my heart for all moms who have experienced miscarriage. It’s hard because many people don’t know what to say or do when someone they know experiences this loss. Sometimes people say the wrong thing without meaning to, so here are Five Things One Should Never Say