Letting Go Of Perfection And Accepting God’s Grace In Our Parenting
Parenting is not about doing everything right all the time. We will make mistakes and nothing goes in vain if we learn from them. Parenting is about getting back up when we fall. We learn to let go of perfection and control. Parenting is so much more than any of us ever imagined. We really had no idea what we signed up for. Did we?
Why do we judge ourselves and others so harshly when it comes to parenting matters? There is no such thing as perfection in our own strength. All we can do is our best and rest in God’s amazing grace.
Every day we are in relationship with God’s precious children and He trusts us with them. Parenting is about connecting, problem solving, adventure, forgiveness, and overcoming. There is love, hate, anger, resentment, understanding, and confusion. It’s in this craziness that we learn to serve and die to selfishness.
In our messy families we find a dance we can all dance too, sing a song that we can all hum too, and we learn to appreciate each other. For every moment of frustration there are a thousand more moments of joy.
Why do we focus so much on our failures? Seriously, how has feeling guilty and shame served us? It doesn’t. Instead it holds us down like a heavy weight and makes us feel defeated.
We need to see our weaknesses becoming our biggest strengths.
It’s important that we stay focused on God’s commands. There is no room for worry when God calls us to seek Him. Worry never changes a thing. It just takes up residence in our heads and makes us react in ways we wish we didn’t. It’s not worth it.
Instead we are to live life intentional and on purpose. As moms it’s our calling to minister love and influence our children. Therefore we have to keep our minds on the end prize. This prize is the gift we give to our children.
The end prize is our treasure box of life skills, values, and beliefs that we show them.
As parents we can choose to shower them with fear or we can pour out faith, hope, and unconditional love. Each morning when we wake up it’s a new day to give, encourage, and praise. With a thankful heart there is nothing that can keep us from growing up in God’s amazing love.
How do we want our kids to remember us? Are they going to see us with our heads down or are they going to see us standing tall with our hands raised up high?
Every day we push through self-condemnation and we don’t give up on ourselves. We make arrangements, set goals, make lists, create space, and manage chaos. We multitask so that everyone’s needs are met.
Our children depend on us even when they are mad at us. Why?
Because, they know that we will not give up on them.
We know that God will not abandon us and that is just enough to get us through another dark valley of depression, grieving, or oppression. Our bodies fail us when our to- do–list has no end. Yet, we figure it out and press on. Why?
Because, God is on our side and He will carry us through.
“Do not fear, for I am with you; do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, surely I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10